As we prepare for Christmas 2015, our multiracial Jewish family faces our annual dilemma — should we get the extra order of steamed vegetable dumplings from the Chinese restaurant.

Truth is, Christmas isn’t much of a dilemma for us (other than the fact that our 4 year-old loves Christmas in a way that makes any Jewish parent wonder if you’re doing enough to teach about Judaism).

Instead, we enjoy Christmas because it’s a chance for us to sit on the sidelines and observe, almost like a commentator or coach. And, because of that, we can offer some observations about Christmas and some thoughts about how our Christian brothers and sisters can enjoy this once-a-year holiday:

1. Remember, it’s not about getting gifts, it’s about returning gifts to get the ones you want, but seeming like you appreciated the gifts you return in the first place.

2. Your family isn’t really that annoying. Just imagine spending that much time cooped up in a house with your boss and co-workers. If you do, we think you’ll realize that your family is really comprised of delightful people.

3. It’s okay to say “Merry Christmas” to Jewish people. We understand what you mean.  Besides it’s a heck of a lot nicer than things that people have said to Jewish people over the years, so we’ll take it any day of the week.

4. If you have the option of being “home” or “away” for Christmas, opt for “away.” Yes, traveling is a pain. But cleaning up after the visiting pains is more of a pain.

5. You must watch at least “It’s a Wonderful Life” and “Christmas Story” and one Rankin Bass clay-mation/stop-action film at this time of year.

6. Mistletoe is no excuse for tongue.

7. A charitable donation of some sort is a “must.”  By the way, a pack of Certs for the guy at the office with bad breath is quite charitable.

8. If you’re going down the “ugly sweater” path, go full throttle.  At least then you can act as if you’re being ironic or silly and eliminate the possibility that you just have really bad taste or that you have vision problems

9. If visiting someone else’s home on Christmas, alcohol is always an appropriate gift, unless it’s rubbing alcohol.

10. Remember, it’s better to give than to receive, unless you’re talking about your own opinions, in which case, maybe no need to be such a giver.  Remember, no one ever ruined a holiday by listening too much.